How to meet expectations in a relationship and not be disappointed by yourself
You can certainly expect him to pay for you ... but don't let him do it every time.
It is quite possible that you expect this at the beginning, at least it was once established. But, understand, in the end, if you have a relationship, then gradually they equalize you, attention and care should be manifested mutually, and not one-sidedly. You can once pay for it. When you are a team, you do everything together.
Expect him to miss you in the doorway or give you a chair ... but don't forget to thank for it.
“Thank you” is the most important word in all respects.
Expect him to call you ... but don’t bother with him when he is busy and can’t call you back.
Even if you look at your phone every five seconds and rush to it as soon as it rings, understand, people may have other things to do.
You may have your own views on life ... but do not compare it with people from your past.
Your ex may have treated you like a treasure and knew how to deal with you, but he is your ex for some reason. Do not make your current one feel that he is competing with some kind of ghost from your past.
Give him time to please you ... and don't ask him if he likes you.
We want specific answers. We want everything to be very clear and happen quickly, but it’s better when relationships develop in a natural way and line up gradually.
We are a generation that longs for the immediate satisfaction of their desires, but you cannot build a good relationship like that.
Expect courtship ... but not old-fashioned.
If you would like a guy to walk down the street and hold an umbrella over you, walk you to the door, kiss and leave, now such courtship is rare.
Most likely, he will simply add you as a friend on Instagram or another social network. So we will adapt to modern realities, and not sigh about the past.
Of course, you need to introduce him to your parents ... just prepare him first.
This is always a serious step, so if you decide that it is time to take it. But it is necessary to discuss this with him in a conversation, and not to lead immediately to the house to his parents.
Expect that he will try his best to please you ... but know that he expects the same from you.
Relationships are built on the fact that you equally take and give, hoping that the other person will do the same. If one of you takes or gives more, the balance is upset and the relationship falls apart.
Expect him to be punctual ... but do not be late yourself.
Punctuality is a form of respect.
You can expect him to stop his previous acquaintances ... but do not be jealous of any girl who calls him on the phone.
Inquiries about each girl with whom he speaks or is charged on the phone will demonstrate your deep insecurity in him. He will not put up with it for long.
Expect him to listen to you carefully ... but also be able to listen to him.
You have two ears and one mouth, so that you listen more and speak less.
Communicate ... but not only via SMS.
Mobile phones are a great way to communicate, but putting the phone aside and chatting live is very important.
Talk about your problems ... but do not take the dirty linen out of the hut.
Whatever happens between you, it only concerns you two.
Spend time with him ... but do not make him the center of your life.
It's great that you have someone you like to chat with, but don't forget about your friends and hobbies. Relationships alone should not completely fill your life.
You will meet his friends ... do not allow yourself abusive comments in their direction.
Even if you don’t like his best friend at all, don’t give him a choice. The choice may not be in your favor.
Expect surprises ... but sometimes surprise yourself too.
Just as you enjoy flowers sent to your office, or an unexpected romantic date at the weekend, so he needs something that will pleasantly surprise and delight him. In a relationship should be good to both, and not to someone alone.
Be prepared to forgive him ... but it cannot be a habit.
Nobody is perfect. Just like you, he can do something wrong. Learn to forgive him, but not infinitely. He should not think that he will get away with it.
Adhere to high standards ... do not lower the bar just because he would like to.
Do not change your principles just because this relationship, as you think, could be better than your relationship in the past.Follow the same standards that you set from the very beginning in all respects.